Freshman Year College 1,375-Item Bare Essentials Packing Checklist

Every year about this time, thousands of families endure an emotionally trying ritual: Sending their young high school graduate off to college – or in the case of my neighbor Bert Zablinski’s under-achieving boy Freddie, a four-week correspondence course for road construction flag operators. For many distraught parents it means driving hundreds of miles in a tightly cramped car filled with college gear, then coming to a startling realization – they forgot to bring one essential item: Their child. Don’t let this happen to you.

The experience of sending your offspring to college is different for every family. But there is one feeling almost every parent shares: a desperate hope they’ll have the winning Powerball lottery tickets so they can pay for college. That’s their Plan A. Most parents don’t have a Plan B, now that by latest estimates the average cost of four years of college recently has surpassed the GNP of Uruguay.

About this time last year, my wife Michele (who hates when I mention her by name in this column, so will hereafter be referred to as Jasmine) and I joined these ranks. We sent our eldest daughter off to college at Washington State University (which hates when I mention their institution by name in this column, so will hereafter be referred to as Princeton). We drove our child 650 miles to her dorm at WSU, er, Princeton (actually it’s only 300 miles – we missed a few exits) and helped her move in. Before I knew it, I was back home, staring sadly at her empty bedroom, facing a bleak new reality: Now I would be the one who has to scoop the kitty litter, empty the dishwasher and take out the trash. God, I’ll miss her.

When your turn comes to ship your child off to college, learn from my experience. Consider FedExing your student. Be sure to use plenty of bubble wrap. Here are a few more helpful tips:

Create a packing checklist.

You’d be amazed at how many things your child will need when they head off to college. If your child is a girl, consider the following essentials: a hair dryer, curling iron, some other device that looks exactly like another curling iron but she’ll tell you is a hair straightener, a second hair dryer, in case the first one accidentally gets left at the McDonald’s in Nowheresville, USA en route to her dorm.

Be sure to pack enough variety of clothing to last your child through at least six presidential elections because apparently there are no clothing stores within a 500-mile radius of her dorm. Other essentials include a five-year supply of top ramen and Cup O’ Noodles, along with every last roll of toilet paper she was able to sneak out of our house.

Might as well let her pack that drum set you bought her in 8th grade, which she only used twice. You never know when she might decide to switch her major from international business to African Tribal Annoying Banging Sounds. One thing that for sure will NOT be on your child’s packing list: a photo of mom and dad. You might want to sneak that into one of her nine purses, to remind her you once existed.

Bring a hand truck for the move-in.

Since you needed a U-Haul truck the size of an armored personnel carrier to fit all your child’s crap, you’ll need something to haul it all to her dorm room. While these days college dorms have Wi-Fi internet, they don’t have elevators. We were delighted to learn upon arrival that our daughter’s room was on the 11th floor of an 11-story dorm. So for us, the hand truck was indispensable – for the entire eleven minutes it remained in our possession – until other families concluded it must have been Property of Princeton University and started using it the moment I turned my back to unpack the fifth box of shoes.

Reserve some private time for a parental chat.

This may be the last time you see your child for many months (unless you’re Freddie Zablinski’s parent). They’re about to set off on an exciting adventure. Use this last opportunity to share precious insights to guide them to make good choices on life’s road ahead. Let me suggest some possible mentoring topics:

  • Be tolerant of people with different world views from yours. You will meet all sorts of people here.
  • Study hard, get good grades, but make sure you maintain a balance. Don’t burn yourself out.
  • Have fun. And by fun, I mean wholesome fun, like backgammon, not tequila shots in a wet T-shirt contest at the I Phelta Thigh frat house.
  • If I ever find out you’ve been doing drugs of any kind, kiss goodbye to our paying for college, missy.
  • Hey, what the hell? Are those my TaylorMade golf clubs? I want them back – now!

Don’t stay too long.

As emotional as this experience will be, resist the temptation to overstay your welcome. Your child is anxious to begin her new life, meet new friends and start telling them stories about how lame her parents are. Once you’ve finished lugging the last crate of Diet Coke up to their 11th floor dorm room, take some time to enjoy your child’s company – and by “take some time” I mean four minutes. Any longer and you’re starting to crowd her newfound independence. Then get back in your car – it will be easy to locate. It’ll be the one with the bright red $75 parking ticket for exceeding your 60-minute unloading time limit by two minutes and 11 seconds.

For many parents like Miche- er, Jasmine and me, the trip home can be the hardest part – knowing that your little angel is all grown up, reflecting on how the years raced by far too quickly and how she never did return your golf clubs. But don’t get too choked up. I understand your little princess is going to a community college – nine miles from home. She’ll be back next Saturday to ask you to do her laundry and to borrow your credit card for a few more essential items. So try to hold it together for the next seven days, won’t you?

That’s the view from the bleachers. Perhaps I’m off base. 

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  • Published On Sep. 05, 2012 by TEJ

    1. 9/5/12

      Oh, your college parenting fun is just beginning. I was called by my freshman son and told that I had to call the head of resident life at his college because he had violated a residence life policy. So I called and learned that my son had been caught drinking alcohol in his dorm room! I ask you, what is America coming to when college students drink alcohol in their dorm rooms? (Frankly, this seems infinitely preferable to drinking on a couch in the open bed of our high school classmate Adolph’s pick up truck – in January – but I digress.) I had a long and very earnest conversation with the res life person. (This is a true story, btw.) During the conversation, I let slip that I got most of this sort of illicit drinking out of the way during my last two years of high school. Now that I think of it our high school with the ironic initials AA practically offered AP credit for beer drinking.

      As for my college dorm experience, I was placed on dorm probation two years in a row. (My first offense was ignoring a fire alarm after I watched a drunken girl pull the alarm in the hall way outside my dorm room.) This made up for the fact that I was one of the select few members of our high school class who avoided probation during the last month of our senior year. No matter what I did, I couldn’t get caught. Fail.

      I”m sure your beloved daughter is well on her way to a long career as a cloistered Sister of Eternal Chastity. No worries.

    2. Drew Fisher

      Now, hold on just a second here, Mr. Jones! As former president of the Farnsworth College chapter of I Phelta Thigh, I deeply resent your characterization of my fine fraternity as a place of wet T-shirt contests and tequila shots. We proudly sponsored Study Night, held once a year on the night before the final exam in the school’s most difficult course, when we had been able to obtain advance copies. Many of our members actually graduated, some in just four (okay, and a half) years. Until it went under, many of our alums were strategists at Lehman Brothers. Others got into investment banking at the end of the dotcom boom, the real estate bubble, etc. etc., so don’t think that we were involved with just liquor and women, we were also concerned with money. As our fraternity song proudly says, “Hail to old I Phelta Thigh…” I forget the rest of it, but I was usually drunk when I was singing it anyway.

    3. Beverly

      This chapter of Tim’s book had me laughing out loud. Reminds me soooo much of when we took our oldest son to University.

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